Understanding Your Window of Tolerance

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The “Window of Tolerance” concept has consistently gained more traction in the world of psychotherapy, self-healing and self-transformation since it was first conceived and published by Dr. Daniel Siegal’s 1999 book, “The Developing Mind”. 

What is the Window of Tolerance?

Window of tolerance refers to the optimal level of arousal in which an individual can function most effectively. It does not mean, however, that such a person is without stress or emotional undulations.  

In fact the window of tolerance takes to heart that many people experience a range of intensities … Read More

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Why its Crucial to do NOTHING!

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by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

woman sitting outdoorsIn our culture, especially the NYC Metro area culture where it tends to be all about ambition and success and striving to become or make something, the notion of sitting and vegging out and doing nothing can seem improbable, impossible and at worst lazy! I’d like to counter that thought and galvanize a movement of “Nothing-doers” to encourage people everywhere who are over-scheduled, over-stressed and overwhelmed or even people who seem to have it all “in-check” to pencil in some time to sit, chill, veg-out … Read More

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The Need to Normalize and Prioritize Discussion of Mental Health

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by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Recently Nicholas Kristof of the New York Times wrote an editorial in which he outlined the necessity for placing Mental Health at #1 on the agenda of news pundits and journalists to address in their work. To those of us who work in the field of mental health, what Mr. Kristof writes resonates deeply on a visceral level; for our purpose in entering this field of work is exactly that – tending to those who struggle with and hopefully thereby easing the burden of the various … Read More

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Tips for Handling Conflict in Couples

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by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Conflict happens in every relationship. In fact, it is an inevitable part of any close and meaningful relationship between people who share and care about each other.  When managed correctly, conflict can be a wonderful opportunity for growth and may significantly strengthen the bonds of a relationship.  Nevertheless, when conflict occurs too often and is managed in a non-constructive manner, it can drive a wedge between what could otherwise be a healthy relationship and serve to push people apart from one another. After a prolonged period … Read More

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Managing Interpersonal Conflict at Work

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by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

In every work setting the potential for conflict is real and unavoidable. Most of us have experienced those uncomfortable moments  when caught in a conflict with a co-worker, supervisor and/or customer where were stumped as to how best to proceed. Or, when we do respond, we feel dissatisfied with the result and obsessively replay in our minds a different course of action that, “we should have taken” which may have yielded a better outcome.

There are certain facts and rules that exist in the workplace that … Read More

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